Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
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About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Selfishness is imposing one's own preferences on others rather than simply living one's own life.
- In plain terms
- Selfishness forces others to follow your wishes.
- What can you take from it?
- Respect others' autonomy.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Where is the line between self‑care and selfishness?
- How do cultural norms shape this view?
Another view
Sometimes advocating for others' well‑being can be seen as selfish by the self‑interested.
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