They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Parents unintentionally pass their own emotional flaws and mistakes on to their children.
- In plain terms
- Your parents mess you up even if they try not to.
- What can you take from it?
- Recognize family patterns to break cycles of harm.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How have your parents shaped your flaws?
- What patterns do you want to break?
Another view
It generalizes all parents as damaging, ignoring supportive ones.
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