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Young people -it is obvious -cannot achieve such a relationship, but they can, if they understand their life properly, grow up slowly to such happiness and prepare themselves for it. They must not forget, when they love, that they are beginners, bunglers of life, apprentices in love- must learn love, and that like all learning wants peace, patience, and composure.

Rainer Maria Rilke#50

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Young people cannot fully achieve deep love yet, but with understanding, patience, and composure they can prepare for it.
In plain terms
Patience and composure help youth prepare for deep love.
What can you take from it?
Cultivate patience while learning love.

Where it applies

  • relationships
  • education

Putting it to work

  • practice mindfulness
  • study relationship literature

Questions to consider

  • How can you practice patience now?
  • What does composure look like in love?

Another view

May imply love is only for the mature, discouraging early effort.

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