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What does it mean?
People inside marriage want out, but those outside want in.
In plain terms
Marriage seems like a paradox of desire.
What can you take from it?
Desire shifts between states.

Where it applies

  • relationship counseling
  • social critique

Putting it to work

  • managing expectations
  • reflecting on commitment

Questions to consider

  • Why do people want what they don't have?
  • Is marriage worth it?

Another view

Not everyone feels trapped or left out.

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