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It seems as if marriage were the royal road through life, and realised, on the instant, what we have all dreamed on summer Sundays when the bells ring, or at night when we cannot sleep for the desire of living. They think it will sober and change them. Like those who join a brotherhood, they fancy it needs but an act to be out of the coil and clamour for ever. But this is a wile of the devil's. To the end, spring winds will sow disquietude, passing faces leave a regret behind them, and the whole world keep calling and calling in their ears. For marriage is like life in this - that it is a field of battle, and not a bed of roses.

Robert Louis Stevenson#24

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Stevenson argues that marriage does not end worldly desires but rather joins the battle of life.
In plain terms
Marriage does not end your troubles; it is another field of battle.
What can you take from it?
Realize marriage adds to life's challenges.

Where it applies

  • relationship advice
  • wedding planning
  • life reflection

Putting it to work

  • set realistic expectations
  • prepare for struggle
  • understand love

Questions to consider

  • Does marriage solve your problems?
  • How do you handle life's disquiet?

Another view

The tone is overly pessimistic about marital happiness.

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