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What does it mean?
Becoming fully human involves experiencing pain; it is not a smooth process. Growth and maturity often come through hardship.
In plain terms
You cannot become fully human without pain.
What can you take from it?
Accept pain as part of becoming human.

Where it applies

  • trauma recovery
  • personal loss
  • coming of age

Putting it to work

  • processing grief
  • learning from failure
  • therapy

Questions to consider

  • How has pain shaped you?
  • What does being human mean to you?

Another view

Some pain is avoidable and should be prevented.

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