Tenderness emerges from the fact that the two persons, longing, as all individuals do, to overcome the separateness and isolation to which we are all heir because we are individuals, can participate in a relationship that, for the moment, is not of two isolated selves but a union.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Tenderness arises when two people unite to overcome their inherent isolation.
- In plain terms
- We feel tender when we connect deeply with someone to escape loneliness.
- What can you take from it?
- Seek connections that dissolve your sense of isolation.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When do you feel most connected?
- How does tenderness appear in your life?
Another view
Not all relationships successfully overcome isolation.
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