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O wiselier then, from feeble yearnings freed, While, and on whom, thou may'st - shine on! nor heed Whether the object by reflected light Return thy radiance or absorb it quite: And tho' thou notest from thy safe recess Old Friends burn dim, like lamps in noisome air, Love them for what they are ; nor love them less, Because to thee they are not what they were.

Samuel Taylor Coleridge#160

LoveChangeFriendshipAcceptanceAdvice

About this quote

What does it mean?
Shine regardless of whether others reflect your light; value friends for who they are, not who they were.
In plain terms
Be yourself and love friends as they are now not as they were.
What can you take from it?
Value people for who they are, not who they used to be.

Where it applies

  • friendship
  • disappointment
  • acceptance

Putting it to work

  • accept friends as they are
  • keep loving
  • don't expect change

Questions to consider

  • Can you love someone for who they are now?
  • Do you miss how they used to be?

Another view

Friendship may require mutual effort rather than one-sided acceptance.

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