When we ask for advice, we are usually looking for an accomplice.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Bellow claims people ask for advice to find someone who agrees with them, not to get answers. They seek validation rather than guidance.
- In plain terms
- When asking for advice, people usually want someone to agree with their choice.
- What can you take from it?
- Advice often serves as a way to confirm what you already think.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Do you ask for advice or agreement?
- What do you really want to hear?
Another view
Some people genuinely seek new perspectives, not just agreement.
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