How to be one up - how to make the other man feel that something has gone wrong, however slightly.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- This describes a tactic to gain social advantage by subtly implying the other person has made a mistake.
- In plain terms
- Make someone feel slightly wrong to put yourself above them.
- What can you take from it?
- Avoid creating insecurity in others to gain status.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How does making others feel inferior benefit you?
- What happens when both people play this game?
Another view
This approach often damages trust and creates hostile environments.
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