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What does it mean?
Human actions often stem from a socially acceptable reason and a hidden, genuine motive.
In plain terms
People give a polite reason and hide the real one.
What can you take from it?
Look beyond stated reasons to find motives.

Where it applies

  • negotiation
  • conflict resolution
  • self reflection

Putting it to work

  • question stated reasons
  • analyze incentives
  • check biases

Questions to consider

  • What hides behind good reasons?
  • How honest are your motives?

Another view

Sometimes people act for only one clear reason.

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