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What does it mean?
You cannot rely on someone else's character for your own safety. Even in love, people do not merge their moral natures; the base stay base and the noble stay noble.
In plain terms
Your security depends on you, not on your partner's goodness.
What can you take from it?
Love does not change a person's core character.

Where it applies

  • evaluating partners
  • building self-reliance
  • understanding love

Putting it to work

  • assess personal character
  • avoid over-reliance

Questions to consider

  • Can love change someone's character?
  • Where does true security come from?

Another view

It may overlook how relationships can inspire moral growth over time.

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