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What does it mean?
Forcing someone is contemptible, but needing to force someone is even more despised.
In plain terms
Both forcing others and needing to force others are bad.
What can you take from it?
Resist coercion and recognize the weakness behind needing it.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • moral judgment
  • leadership

Putting it to work

  • ethical decision making
  • building trust

Questions to consider

  • When is coercion ever acceptable?
  • What does needing force say about you?

Another view

Sometimes force is unavoidable in extreme survival situations.

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