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What does it mean?
Sex is described as a tool for humiliation, highlighting power dynamics in relationships.
In plain terms
Intimacy can be used to hurt or humiliate others.
What can you take from it?
Be aware of power in intimacy.

Where it applies

  • abusive relationships
  • consent discussions

Putting it to work

  • discuss boundaries
  • recognize coercion

Questions to consider

  • How is power used in intimacy?
  • What protects consent?

Another view

Sex also functions positively in healthy relationships.

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