Most quarrels amplify a misunderstanding.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Most arguments grow bigger because of underlying misunderstandings rather than actual differences.
- In plain terms
- Fights often get worse because people don't understand each other.
- What can you take from it?
- Check for misunderstandings before escalating a conflict.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What assumption am I making about the other person?
- How might this disagreement look if I understood their view?
Another view
Not all quarrels stem from misunderstanding; some arise from genuine value clashes.
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