It's our tendency to approach every problem as if it were a fight between two sides. We see it in headlines that are always using metaphors for war. It's a general atmosphere of animosity and contention that has taken over our public discourse.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Public discourse is overly framed as conflict or war, creating hostility instead of cooperation.
- In plain terms
- We treat problems like battles instead of shared challenges.
- What can you take from it?
- Avoid war metaphors in public discussion.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What metaphor shapes your debates?
Another view
Some conflicts do require adversarial stances.
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