A guide, on finding a man who has lost his way, brings him back to the right path-he does not mock and jeer at him and then take himself off. You also must show the unlearned man the truth, and you will see that he will follow. But so long as you do not show it him, you should not mock, but rather feel your own incapacity. (63)
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Guide a lost person with compassion rather than mockery, showing them truth so they will follow.
- In plain terms
- Help a misguided person kindly and show them the right way.
- What can you take from it?
- Compassionate guidance leads to positive change.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How can you show truth without offending?
- When is it appropriate to step back?
Another view
If the person resists truth, kindness may not be enough.
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