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It was because of this guy I had gone out with and had been really, really close with. I really loved him. I felt that he was my best friend. But he was a teenaged guy, and they don't think a lot of times. He mistreated me and then he came back. I couldn't even be friends with him for awhile. I cared about him, but it was just a situation where he kept trying to be friends with me, but I knew that he just wanted to be friends with me so he could have the option of making a move on me whenever he wanted to. And because I was so infatuated with him, and even in love with him, I was always available for that. It made me feel weak every time I would fall for that. And I would look forward to him making a move on me, but I knew that it was wrong. I knew that he was playing with me. And after awhile, I didn't even care anymore because I wanted him so much.

Fiona Apple#2

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About this quote

What does it mean?
The speaker reflects on a past relationship where they felt used and weak due to unrequited or manipulative affection.
In plain terms
I realized someone kept me around only for what they wanted from me.
What can you take from it?
Recognize when you are being used in relationships.

Where it applies

  • toxic relationships
  • unrequited love
  • boundary setting

Putting it to work

  • identify red flags
  • value yourself
  • exit unhealthy situations

Questions to consider

  • Why do we stay in bad relationships?
  • How do you know when to walk away?

Another view

The speaker initially knew it was wrong but stayed anyway.

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