Ce qui fait que si peu de personnes sont agreables dans la conversation, c'est que chacun songe plus a ce qu'il veut dire qu'a ce que les autres disent.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- People are unpleasant in conversation because they think about what they want to say rather than listening to others.
- In plain terms
- Poor conversation happens when you only listen to plan your reply.
- What can you take from it?
- Listening to understand is better than listening to reply.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Are you waiting to talk or actually listening?
- What do you miss when thinking of your reply?
Another view
Some contexts require quick turn-taking where deep listening slows flow.
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