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What does it mean?
Couples do not get bored because they mostly talk about themselves.
In plain terms
People stay together because they focus on their own interests.
What can you take from it?
Self-interest sustains relationships more than mutual curiosity.

Where it applies

  • dating
  • marriage
  • socializing

Putting it to work

  • monitoring conversation balance
  • practicing active listening

Questions to consider

  • Do you talk more about yourself?
  • Is shared focus key to bonding?

Another view

Not all couples lack mutual interest or curiosity.

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