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In our family we had a well-to-do aunt who always gave us magnificent Christmas presents. She was so much part of the family that we even included her in our prayers at bedtime... I suppose I must have been nine or ten years old at the time. Suddenly Aunt Anna's Christmas presents were lying there too, and among them a parcel with 'Forsner's on it. So of course I instantly knew it contained a projector. For a couple of years I'd been consumed with a passionate longing to own one, but had been considered too small for such a present... I was incredibly excited. Because my father was a clergyman we never got our presents on Christmas Eve, like other Swedish children do. We got them on Christmas Day... Well, you can imagine my disappointment when it turned out to be my older brother - he's four years older than myself - who got the projector - and I was given a teddy bear. It was one of my life's bitterest disappointments. After all, my brother wasn't a scrap interested in cinematography. But both of us had masses of lead soldiers. So on Boxing Day I bought the projector off him for half my army and he beat me hollow in every war ever afterwars. But I'd got the projector, anyway.

Ingmar Bergman#24

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Bergman recounts childhood disappointment when his brother received a projector he wanted. He notes his father's role as a clergyman affected gift timing.
In plain terms
He was sad his brother got a projector instead of him.
What can you take from it?
Childhood desires can lead to lasting disappointment.

Where it applies

  • gift giving
  • family gatherings
  • childhood wishes

Putting it to work

  • managing expectations
  • understanding family dynamics

Questions to consider

  • How do childhood disappointments shape you?
  • How do families balance gift giving?

Another view

It is a personal anecdote without broader universal application.

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