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What does it mean?
Helping people too much can reduce their own motivation to act.
In plain terms
Overhelping makes others dependent.
What can you take from it?
Avoid doing everything for others.

Where it applies

  • parenting
  • management
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • encourage independence
  • set boundaries

Questions to consider

  • Are you enabling dependency?
  • How much help is too much?

Another view

Sometimes people need full help.

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