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I have urged on woman independence of man, not that I do not think the sexes mutually needed by one another, but because in woman this fact has led to an excessive devotion, which has cooled love, degraded marriage and prevented it her sex from being what it should be to itself or the other. I wish woman to live, first for God's sake. Then she will not take what is not fit for her from a sense of weakness and poverty. Then if she finds what she needs in man embodied, she will know how to love and be worthy of being loved.

Margaret Fuller#93

GenderFaithLoveIndependenceMarriageSelf reliance

About this quote

What does it mean?
Fuller argues that women's independence is needed not because men are unnecessary, but because overdependence harms love and marriage.
In plain terms
Women should be self‑reliant so love stays strong.
What can you take from it?
Cultivate independence to protect healthy relationships.

Where it applies

  • married couples
  • women seeking autonomy
  • faith‑based communities

Putting it to work

  • encourage personal growth
  • promote mutual respect

Questions to consider

  • How does dependence affect love?
  • Can independence coexist with partnership?

Another view

Independence alone may not guarantee deeper emotional connection.

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  3. Drudgery is as necessary to call out the treasures of the mind, as harrowing and planting those of the earth.

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