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I've repeatedly said that for people as little in common as Joanne and myself, we have an uncommonly good marriage. We are actors, we make pictures - and that's about all we have in common. Maybe that's enough. Wives shouldn't feel obligated to accompany their husbands to a ball game, husbands do look a bit silly attending morning coffee breaks with the neighbourhood wives when most men are out at work. Husbands and wives should have separate interests, cultivate different sets of friends - and not impose one upon the other.

Paul Newman#2

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Successful marriages allow separate interests and friends without imposing on each other.
In plain terms
Couples should have different hobbies and friends.
What can you take from it?
Allow space in relationships.

Where it applies

  • long-term partnerships
  • social life
  • couples

Putting it to work

  • cultivate separate hobbies
  • respect boundaries

Questions to consider

  • How much space do you need?
  • How do you balance togetherness?

Another view

Too much separation can weaken bonds over time.

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