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What does it mean?
She asks why he never uses his strength on her; he replies that love means giving up strength.
In plain terms
Love requires surrendering power.
What can you take from it?
True love is gentle, not forceful.

Where it applies

  • conflict resolution
  • intimate relationships

Putting it to work

  • practice empathy
  • avoid domination

Questions to consider

  • Can love be both strong and gentle?
  • When is strength appropriate in love?

Another view

Renouncing strength can be misinterpreted as passivity.

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