Most men were like this - relatively unconnected, unbound, alone. But these men were particularly untrusting and ungiving, and so the bonds that held them to each other was fragile indeed. It was not love at all, really, but rather a yearning for the honor and respect of the other men that held them. Pride, then... Indeed, all their connection with each other at this moment was tied up with the respect they felt they were earning by their actions.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Men often connect through pride and earned respect rather than love. These bonds are fragile because they depend on performance.
- In plain terms
- Their bond was based on mutual respect, not love.
- What can you take from it?
- Male friendships often rely on pride rather than emotional connection.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do you connect with other men?
- What holds your relationships together?
Another view
Not all male relationships follow this pattern.
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