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What does it mean?
People tend to care most about those they see as extensions of themselves.
In plain terms
Compassion is strongest for those like us.
What can you take from it?
We help those we identify with.

Where it applies

  • charity
  • community building
  • social bias

Putting it to work

  • expand circle of concern

Questions to consider

  • Who do you feel closest to?
  • Why do you help others?

Another view

It simplifies complex motivations for compassion.

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