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What does it mean?
Love expressed in harmful ways often goes unrecognized and unappreciated.
In plain terms
He never saw her love because it came through cruelty and knowing to know would hurt him.
What can you take from it?
Misdirected love often goes unseen.

Where it applies

  • conflict
  • estrangement
  • miscommunication

Putting it to work

  • clarifying intent
  • reaching out
  • forgiveness

Questions to consider

  • When has your love been misunderstood?
  • What stops you from sharing love?

Another view

Sometimes recognizing love causes more pain.

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