She knew exactly what she had done to him. And yet she couldn't quite believe that she was jerking him around
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- People can recognize harm caused yet doubt their intent to manipulate.
- In plain terms
- She knows she hurt him but doubts she meant to play with him.
- What can you take from it?
- Self-awareness of harm does not always mean intent.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Does intent excuse harm?
- How do you know you hurt someone?
Another view
Intent and impact are often conflated unfairly.
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