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Josif told me. That he thought he was going to fall in love with you. Did you mind? Why should I mind? There's plenty of love, what should I care? I love both you and him, you know, and you love both of us, but he kept talking as if it were something that could only - as if once he loved you, he would have to stop loving me. He said that. He said that if he ever made love to you it would be. It would be what? It would be after he stopped loving me

Orson Scott Card#824

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Characters discuss how love might be finite, debating if loving one person requires stopping love for another.
In plain terms
They debate if loving someone new means you must stop loving the other.
What can you take from it?
People often argue that love is finite and exclusive.

Where it applies

  • polyamory discussions
  • breakups
  • sharing a partner

Putting it to work

  • challenging scarcity mindsets
  • communicating love needs

Questions to consider

  • Is love finite or infinite?
  • Can you love two people fully?

Another view

This view treats love as a limited resource, which is debatable.

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