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What does it mean?
Losing self-control undermines a person's dignity rather than preserving it.
In plain terms
You lose respect when you lose control of yourself.
What can you take from it?
Self-control preserves dignity.

Where it applies

  • conflict situations
  • public speaking
  • leadership

Putting it to work

  • practice emotional regulation
  • maintain composure

Questions to consider

  • When does losing control cost respect?
  • How is dignity defined?

Another view

Dignity can sometimes be maintained even while showing strong emotion.

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