To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- True love requires openness to pain as well as joy, deepening consciousness.
- In plain terms
- Love means opening yourself to pain and joy alike.
- What can you take from it?
- Embrace the full range of emotions to love deeply.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Are you avoiding pain to protect yourself?
- How has grief shaped your capacity to love?
Another view
Some argue protecting oneself from pain is necessary for mental health.
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