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'Parents are frequently inclined, because of a time-flattered sense of security, to take their children for granted. Nothing ever has happened, so nothing ever will happen. They see their children every day, and through the eyes of affection; and despite their natural charm and their own strong parental love, the children are apt to become not only commonplaces, but ineffably secure against evil. The astonishment of most parents at the sudden accidental revelation of evil in connection with any of their children is almost invariably pathetic. But it is possible. Very possible. Decidedly likely. Some, through lack of experience or understanding, or both, grow hard and bitter on the instant. They feel themselves astonishingly abased in the face of notable tenderness and sacrifice. Others collapse before the grave manifestation of the insecurity and uncertainty of life - the mystic chemistry of our being. Still others, taught roughly by life, or endowed with understanding or intuition, or both, see in this the latest manifestation of that incomprehensible chemistry which we call life and personality, and, knowing that it is quite vain to hope to gainsay it, save by greater subtlety, put the best face they can upon the matter and call a truce until they can think. We all know that life is unsolvable - we who think. The remainder, imagine a vain thing and are full of sound and fury signifying nothing.'

Theodore Dreiser#11

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Parents often take children for granted due to false security, leading to shock when evil is revealed, causing some to harden and others to collapse under life's uncertainty.
In plain terms
Parents assume their children are safe until something bad happens, which can break them.
What can you take from it?
Overconfidence in children's safety can lead to devastating shock.

Where it applies

  • family life
  • parenting advice
  • crisis management

Putting it to work

  • maintain vigilance
  • prepare for unexpected challenges

Questions to consider

  • How secure do you feel about your family?
  • What prepares you for life's uncertainties?

Another view

The quote assumes evil is inevitable in children, which may reflect parental fear rather than reality.

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