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One realizes that human relationships are the tragic necessity of human life; that they can never be wholly satisfactory, that every ego is half the time greedily seeking them, and half the time pulling away from them. In those simple relationships of loving husband and wife, affectionate sisters, children and grandmother, there are innumerable shades of sweetness and anguish which make up the pattern of our lives day by day, though they are not down in the list of subjects from which the conventional novelist works.

Willa Cather#59

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Human relationships are necessary but flawed, mixing sweetness and anguish.
In plain terms
We need relationships even if they are never perfect.
What can you take from it?
Accept that relationships are imperfect but necessary.

Where it applies

  • marriage
  • parenting
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • forgive flaws
  • value connection

Questions to consider

  • What makes a relationship worth keeping?
  • Can love be completely free of pain?

Another view

Some relationships may be too toxic to maintain.

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