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She said, 'Love isn't enough. Your parents have to know how to relate to you, and to each other. They have to want to be with you more than with anyone else. They have to love being home more than anywhere in the world, and they have to be more interested in you than in:' 'Snakes and tornadoes,' I suggested. 'God, I love them. They're nice, Jimmy, they really are, and they mean well. But they live inside themselves more than not, and they keep their doors closed. You see them mostly through windows.'

Dean R. Koontz#31

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Love alone is not enough; parents need to be actively present and interested in their children.
In plain terms
Parents must be actively involved, not just love.
What can you take from it?
Prioritize active presence in relationships.

Where it applies

  • parenting
  • family dynamics
  • feeling neglected

Putting it to work

  • be actively present
  • show interest in loved ones

Questions to consider

  • How do you show love actively?
  • What does presence mean to you?

Another view

Some parents may love deeply but struggle with presence.

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