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What does it mean?
Gioia suggests that what we hide internally exceeds what we share, illustrated by letters written to the dead.
In plain terms
People keep more inside than they ever reveal to others.
What can you take from it?
Acknowledge the vast internal lives people keep hidden.

Where it applies

  • personal reflection
  • grief processing
  • interpersonal relationships

Putting it to work

  • respect privacy
  • understand silence
  • journal privately

Questions to consider

  • What do you hide from others?
  • Why do we write to the dead?

Another view

Some people may share more than they keep hidden.

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