We criticize mothers for closeness. We criticize fathers for distance. How many of us have expected less from our fathers and appreciated what they gave us more? How many of us always let them off the hook?
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Society holds different expectations for mothers and fathers, often overlooking the value of fathers' contributions.
- In plain terms
- We judge moms for being close and dads for being distant, but we should appreciate what dads give.
- What can you take from it?
- Recognize and appreciate fathers' unique contributions to parenting.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- What did your father give that you undervalued?
- How do expectations differ for parents?
Another view
Not all fathers fit the distant mold, and some mothers may also be distant.
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