Years ago, I tried to top everybody, but I don't anymore. I realized it was killing conversation. When you're always trying for a topper you aren't really listening. It ruins communication.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Trying to one one-up others stops genuine listening and damages communication.
- In plain terms
- Stop trying to top others so you can actually listen.
- What can you take from it?
- Listening matters more than having the last word.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When did you last stop to listen just to understand?
- How does your ego affect your conversations?
Another view
Some competitive environments reward one-upmanship over collaboration.
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