All I am saying in this book can be summed up in two words: Trust Children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Trusting children is essential but requires adults to first overcome their own upbringing where they were taught not to trust themselves.
- In plain terms
- To trust kids, adults must heal their own doubts about being trustworthy.
- What can you take from it?
- Heal your own trust issues to better support children.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- When did you learn to distrust yourself?
- How does your trust style affect children?
Another view
Trust without boundaries can sometimes lead to unsafe situations.
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