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What does it mean?
You should not allow others to set your self-worth or standards for what is good.
In plain terms
Do not let other people decide what is good for you.
What can you take from it?
Protect your own sense of value from outside influence.

Where it applies

  • building self-confidence
  • dealing with criticism
  • making life choices

Putting it to work

  • setting personal boundaries
  • evaluating feedback independently

Questions to consider

  • Who influences your choices most?
  • How do you know if something is good for you?

Another view

Sometimes community standards help guide us toward shared goods.

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