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What does it mean?
She keeps making decisions that affect others without asking them, assuming they need her help.
In plain terms
She decides for people without their input, thinking they want her help.
What can you take from it?
Ask before acting on others' lives.

Where it applies

  • family dynamics
  • leadership
  • friendship

Putting it to work

  • seek consent
  • listen to concerns

Questions to consider

  • Do I ever decide for others without asking?
  • How can I balance help with autonomy?

Another view

Sometimes quick decisions are needed when consultation isn’t possible.

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  3. They would not meet, but they would pass close to each other. She would notice him or not. He would speak to her or not. She still loved and needed him. Or not.

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