L'homme jouit du bonheur qu'il ressent, et la femme de celui qu'elle procure. Cette difference, si essentielle et si peu remarquee, influe pourtant, d'une maniere bien sensible, sur la totalite de leur conduite respective. Le plaisir de l'un est de satisfaire des desirs, celui de l'autre est surtout de les faire naitre.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Men enjoy the happiness they feel, while women enjoy the happiness they create in others. This subtle difference shapes their entire behavior. One seeks to satisfy desires, the other to inspire them.
- In plain terms
- Men enjoy their own pleasure, while women enjoy making others pleased.
- What can you take from it?
- Gender roles often define happiness as receiving versus creating pleasure.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Is happiness better when received or given?
- How do gender roles shape our pursuit of pleasure?
Another view
This generalization may not apply to all individuals or modern contexts.
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