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The cruelest lies are often told in silence. A man may have sat in a room for hours and not opened his teeth, and yet come out of that room a disloyal friend or a vile calumniator. And how many loves have perished because, from pride, or spite, or diffidence, or that unmanly shame which withholds a man from daring to betray emotion, a lover, at the critical point of the relation, has but hung his head and held his tongue?

Robert Louis Stevenson#29

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Silence and pride can cause betrayal and the end of relationships more than spoken words.
In plain terms
Not saying the right thing can hurt someone more than lying.
What can you take from it?
Communication requires courage to overcome silence and pride.

Where it applies

  • resolving conflict
  • expressing love
  • ending a friendship

Putting it to work

  • speak your truth
  • avoid pride
  • communicate openly

Questions to consider

  • When did silence hurt you?
  • What keeps you from speaking?

Another view

Silence is not always negative; sometimes it protects others.

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