It is nonsense to assert that revelry, vice, ecstasy, passion, would become impossible if man and woman were equal in concrete matters; the contradictions that put the flesh in opposition to the spirit, the instant to time, the swoon of immanence to the challenge of transcendence, the absolute of pleasure to the nothingness of forgetting, will never be resolved; in sexuality will always be materialised the tension, the anguish, the joy, the frustration, and the triumph of existence. To emancipate woman is to refuse to confine her to the relations she bears to man, not to deny them to her; let her have her independent existence and she will continue none the less to exist for him also: mutually recognising each other as subject, each will yet remain for the other an other. The reciprocity of their relations will not do away with the miracles - desire, possession, love, dream, adventure - worked by the division of human beings into two separate categories; and the words that move us - giving, conquering, uniting - will not lose their meaning. On the contrary, when we abolish the slavery of half of humanity, together with the whole system of hypocrisy that it implies, then the 'division' of humanity will reveal its genuine significance and the human couple will find its true form.
About this quote
- What does it mean?
- Equality will not eliminate the tension between body and spirit, or the contradictions of desire and transcendence; emancipation means allowing women independent existence while recognizing mutual subjectivity.
- In plain terms
- Equality won’t erase contradictions; freeing women means mutual recognition as subjects.
- What can you take from it?
- Emancipate women without denying relational dynamics.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- Can societal structures resolve these contradictions?
- What does mutual subjectivity look like in practice?
Another view
The claim assumes tensions are immutable.
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