You aren't very good at determining what other people want and need from you... No one is. We're all as likely to hurt as help.
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About this quote
- What does it mean?
- No one can perfectly know what others need; we can both help and hurt.
- In plain terms
- We can’t always know what people want, and we may hurt as much as help.
- What can you take from it?
- Accept uncertainty in others' needs.
Where it applies
Putting it to work
Questions to consider
- How do I balance helping and risking harm?
- When is it okay to act without certainty?
Another view
Sometimes acting without full knowledge is necessary in emergencies.
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