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[Girls] study under the paralyzing idea that their acquirements cannot be brought into practical use. They may subserve the purposes of promoting individual domestic pleasure and social enjoyment in conversation, but what are they in comparison with the grand stimulation of independence and self- reliance, of the capability of contributing to the comfort and happiness of those whom they love as their own souls?

Sarah Grimke#20

Attribution disputed; shown as originally published.

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Girls are taught their education is only for domestic pleasure, not for independence or contributing to loved ones.
In plain terms
Education should prepare women for independence and contributing to family, not just conversation.
What can you take from it?
Educate girls for self-reliance and meaningful contribution, not just social graces.

Where it applies

  • education reform
  • parenting
  • curriculum design

Putting it to work

  • advocate for girls’ education
  • teach practical skills
  • encourage independence

Questions to consider

  • What skills should education prioritize?
  • How do you define contribution?

Another view

The quote frames women’s value in relation to loved ones rather than inherent worth.

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