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...I have described the human dilemma as the capacity of man to view himself as object and as subject. My point is that both are necessary -- necessary for psychological science, for effective therapy, and for meaningful living. I am also proposing that in the dialectical process between these two poles lies the development, and the deepening and widening, of human consciousness. The error on both sides -- for which I have used Skinner and the pre-paradox Rogers as examples -- is the assumption that one can avoid the dilemma by taking one of its poles. It is not simply that man must learn to live with the paradox -- the human being has always lived in this paradox or dilemma, from the time that he first became aware of the fact that he was the one who would die and coined a word for his own death. Illness, limitations of all sorts, and every aspect of our biological state we have indicated are aspects of the deterministic side of the dilemma -- man is like the grass of the field, it withereth. The awareness of this, and the acting on this awareness, is the genius of man the subject. But we must also take the implications of this dilemma into our psychological theory. Between the two horns of this dilemma, man has developed symbols, art, language, and the kind of science which is always expanding in its own presuppositions. The courageous living within this dilemma, I believe, is the source of human creativity.

Rollo May#15

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Humans must accept the paradox of being both subject and object, as avoiding it limits consciousness and therapy.
In plain terms
Accept that you are both the viewer and the viewed to grow fully.
What can you take from it?
Embrace the paradox of being both subject and object.

Where it applies

  • therapy
  • psychological science
  • existential reflection

Putting it to work

  • accept contradictions
  • seek self-awareness

Questions to consider

  • How do you view yourself as subject and object?
  • Where do you see paradox in your life?

Another view

Some philosophies reject this duality.

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