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Marital intercourse is certainly holy, lawful and praiseworthy in itself and profitable to society, yet in certain circumstances it can prove dangerous, as when through excess the soul is made sick with venial sin, or through the violation and perversion of its primary end, killed by mortal sin; such perversion, detestable in proportion to its departure from the true order, being always mortal sin, for it is never lawful to exclude the primary end of marriage which is the procreation of children.

Francis de Sales#7

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About this quote

What does it mean?
Marital relations are holy but become sinful if they exclude procreation or involve excess.
In plain terms
Marriage intimacy is good but must follow specific religious rules.
What can you take from it?
Follow natural order in marriage to avoid spiritual harm.

Where it applies

  • religious life
  • marital advice
  • moral guidance

Putting it to work

  • prioritize family
  • follow moral codes
  • avoid excess

Questions to consider

  • What defines a holy union?
  • How do duty and desire balance?

Another view

Modern views often reject the necessity of procreation for marriage.

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